also the people that worship cmbyn are mostly straight girls that fetishize gay men and are disgusted by lesbians. Montgomery (@cowboy_montg), who was abused by a teacher as a high school student, joins Here & Now's Robin Young to discuss why she sees the movie as a "deftly directed, beautifully photographed, wonderfully acted master class in sexual predation and abuse. "Call me by your name," means so much more than just the words to the characters: the phrase is the embodiment of an idea; and expresses far more power than, "I love you."

Page 143. I'll shake Aciman's hand, give him a hug and kiss in congratulations for writing the only believable "years after" moment in any book I've ever read. It's Oliver's tinge of cruelty, dusting of malevolent self absorption that continues to nibble at me. “Call Me by Your Name” is less a coming-of-age story, a tale of innocence and loss, than one about coming into sensibility.

Aciman doesn't tell a story about falling in love.

He is walking insecurity. Its ok. ", On a moment in the film that reminded Montgomery of her experience, and how her abuser would give and then withdraw approval. ".

Elio is portrayed very much as a child: He shaves peach fuzz off of his face, he cuddles with his parents, his lines are often kind of bratty and childlike, and he's being played as a sexy romantic partner to a character who's very much being portrayed as an adult.

Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. The plot wasn't all that interesting and the relationship between the two characters wasn't really all that. Everywhere I go, will it be TikTok or Instagram, I see people either quoting or creating art inspired by the movie. The only thing more disturbing than Elio's obsession, and there is no other word for his feelings, is Oliver's reciprocation. Yeah, the age gap threw me off too. A blog about red shells, rum, and book publishing... what has become of my life? 4. Elio and Oliver are one and the same person: likes, dislikes, interest, passions; there is nothing they don't share. I am gay. It is fantastic. Got a burning unpopular opinion you want to share? Elio wants to wear Oliver's bathing suits, his shirt, to sleep in his bed to--quite literally, wear his skin and be inside of him. The Oscar-nominated film "Call Me by Your Name" is a coming-of-age story about a 17-year-old named Elio and his brief romance with a 24-year-old … I don't mind it usually, but it felt a little bit too controversial for my taste. For your poll suggestion to be considered, your list must link back to this thread. As is their custom, since Elio's father is a prominent university scholar, they host a visiting scholar from abroad for three months. Right now there's sorrow. There are heavy expectations with a novel as this and plenty of room for disappointment. I read the book before I saw the movie, and everything about it except the atmosphere and the aesthetics it pretty mediocre. But remember, our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. Oliver, the '.

"Call me by your name," means so much more than just the words to the characters: the phrase is the embodiment of an idea; and expresses far more power than, "I love you." Call me by your name To: Face-Off: 'Moonlight' vs. 'Call Me by Your Name' 3. Concur with your remarks about the beautiful use of language. The power of this relationship goes far beyond the physical and time itself seems unable to exhaust Elio and Oliver's feelings. Elio is torn by desire and lust, guilt and shame. Still, this colored my perception of 'The cau boi', Oliver. The choice of films appears arbitrary. He never stumbles, never lays foot to creaky floorboard for a second. Seventeen year-old Elio and his family are settling in for the summer at their mansion in the Italian Riviera. He simply isn't there and the story shimmers without a clumsy line to whiplash one out of the reality opened on the pages.

To all who haven't read it - run, don't walk, to get a copy of "Call Me By Your Name.". He is hard to describe as anything but delicate. the book was beautifully written but i feel like a lot of these people are just obsessing over the movie because its trendy. Call Me By Your Name is the story of Oliver, a 24-year-old graduate student (a miscast Armie Hammer, who is 31 and looks every day of it) having an affair with Elio, (Timothée Chalamet) the precocious yet confused 17-year-old son of Oliver’s professor. What we have to conclude through his discussion with others, particularly Oliver, is that he is brilliant for seventeen yet has managed to maintain the emotional ineptitude of his peers: he doesn't know how to act, think, or how to express himself. "Call me by your name" is overrated There, I said it. Both characters sexuality isn't merely intriguing: it is all-consuming. I felt that when the line was used in the book it was almost robbed of some, though not much, of it's power just by the reader already being familiar with the title and not understanding it's meaning.

The child just developmentally isn't in a position to really know what they wanna do, and what they wanna tell that adult. I don't envy the pain. Rather Elio tries to explain how things got here almost as if he is defending his emotions. ", "As a 15-year-old or a 16-year-old, I very much believed that I was in control, and that I was able to consent, and I would say, that's part of being 16, is you have that illusion that you're on top of things. I do understand how lonely it can be to be a gay teenager in the '80s. Most of us can't help but live as though we've got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. Travis gives his thoughts on why Call Me By Your Name didn't speak to him like it has for others. Just because something's technically legal doesn't make it ethical. Everywhere I go, will it be TikTok or Instagram, I see people either quoting or creating art inspired by the movie. lol, More posts from the unpopularopinion community. I basically had sent myself to boarding school, I was a scholarship student, it wasn't something that was really even on my parents' radar, it was something I decided I wanted and it was something I figured out how to do. The gay plague as it was then known was already beginning to roil conversation in the US. ", On whether someone might see the film differently if its setting or characters were different, "I'm kind of confused as to why this movie got the Oscar nomination, I guess, considering what it is.

", "Like Elio, I was precocious. Kudos on the shots and aesthetic though, the only things that saved an otherwise mediocre movie. I think it is Elio's salvation that in a moment of clarity Oliver realizes his dishonesty that sends him running away, crushing the boy. Still, there are moments of self satisfaction where he suddenly appears by the pool or next to a cafe table pointing proudly at his story telling.It is important, not just for it's uninterrupted flow of bodily fluids that the story takes place a few years before the first AIDS death in Italy. Within two years, even in Italy a pall was cast over everyone who had gay sex and no meaningful barrier, even condoms, had yet to become the ubiquitous bio-hazard pocket pack able to protect one from " The gay plague."

If ever there needed to be an argument made for literature being art, here is my evidence. This is put into sharp relief when contrast with Oliver who is blunt, brash, and confident in all he does. Page 225. I enjoyed the romance, but it feels at bit manipulative when you realize that they're 17 and 24. The Oscar-nominated film "Call Me by Your Name" is a coming-of-age story about a 17-year-old named Elio and his brief romance with a 24-year-old grad student, Oliver, who comes to work with Elio's father.

It’s like one of the only fairly represented LGBTQ+ movies out there, it’s kinda all we got. I see and think nothing of Potok. The peach scene came off as a pointless gross-out scene for shock value and to give the movie something, ANYTHING memorable. Elio's feelings are known right away. This is some of the most beautiful prose and use of language you will come across. It will clear the air.

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And I understand how difficult it is to not see good representation of yourself. I get it. ", On those who see the film as depicting a beautiful, end-of-summer romance, "I would say that it's not a question of a gray-area age gap. "Then let me say one more thing. Again I say that is not a metaphor ( well, not really ) this is Elio's most dear desire. It had hit with greatest force here and Oliver would, even in '83, have known about it. yes. It is equally convincing in its veracity, vicious lack of subtly, and relentless brooding. It was good, yeah, but it's not one of those movies that really stick with you.

", On what she's heard from people about her story, "A lot of people contact me directly because they appreciate what I've said, and they maybe identify with my story, and I know from my own experience that when you start hearing other people's stories, it makes it easier to tell your own.